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Guest blog from my friend and colleague, Jackie Ferguson from The Diversity Movement

June 1, 2020

There is unrest in America right now. Many are grappling with how to process these events and with how to protect our children among systems of racial inequity that continue to mistreat us.  On a personal level, I am sending my 18 year old Black daughter into the pre-adulthood of university life.  And there is a different fear for me than for the mothers of her White classmates. Several of them have asked me, “what can I do?” as the inequities of our justice system are glaringly apparent to more than just the marginalized.  During times of tragedy, there are opportunities for allyship. Each of us can use our voice, our influence, our platform and our power to make a difference.  

What does it mean to be an ally?  An ‘ally’ is someone who has privilege, but chooses to stand for and with marginalized communities by taking tangible, ongoing actions to dismantle systems of oppression.  Being an ally means working to develop empathy towards another group’s challenges or issues — and, ultimately, helping to create a culture in which that group feels valued.  It means that you carry the burden of one or more marginalized groups as your own.  Who can be an ally? Anyone has the potential to be an ally. Allies recognize that though they are not a member of the marginalized group(s) they support, they make a concerted effort to better understand the struggle, every single day.  Because an ally might have more privilege (and recognizes said privilege), they are powerful voices alongside marginalized ones.  Being an ally is hard work. Many of those who want to be allies are afraid of missteps that get them labeled as “-ist” or “-ic” (racist, sexist, transphobic, homophobic, etc). But as an ally, you are also affected by a system of oppression. This means that as an ally, there is much to unlearn and learn—mistakes are expected. What can you do right now to make an impact?  Listen. For allies who do not know where to start, the most meaningful thing one can do is listen to the voices of those who are often silenced. Even though you feel empathy for a situation, you can’t fully understand experiences that you don’t live. The best way to learn is to listen. Ask others if they are okay.  Educate yourself.  It is not the job of Black people to educate White people about racial injustice.  Do the work of seeking out books and documentaries and articles and allow yourself to learn from them.  In doing this, you give yourself a cultural baseline to then have meaningful conversations around race with others that will provide you deeper insights and expand empathy that lead to action.  Talk to your children. They are our hope for a better future. Talk about current events. Share your feelings with them of sadness, anger and frustration. Diversify their reading and movie lists. Call out racism and bias when you see it in the media. Don’s shy away from difficult conversations. Be an example for them. It’s ok to not have all the answers. Allies just stay in search of them.  Speak up. By now, we have all heard Angela Davis’ quote, “It’s not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti-racist.” We do that by speaking up! Make your position known. This is not ok. Speak up in your family and friend groups. Speak up on your social media platforms. Speak up at the voting polls-locally and nationally.  Participate in peaceful protests and demonstrations. Call and write your legislators. Not just during the weeks of incidents where people are having the conversations. This is your conversation.  Nurture truth-telling relationships. We cannot become allies alone.  We need the insights, perspectives, support and challenge of relationships where there is a shared commitment to speak our truths and hear each other all the way through, no matter how uncomfortable the revelations may make us.  Give back.  Use your privilege to provide information and access to those who need it. Mentor someone in an underserved community. Donate to or volunteer with an organization that aligns with your personal advocacy on these issues.  Encourage others to do the same. In doing this, you are able to create significant impact on a local scale.  Below, we have provided a quick resource list. This list is not meant to be comprehensive or exhaustive, by any means, but is simply provided as starting resources to provide perspectives that help you become an ally. 

Articles Why We Need to Call Out Casual Racism A Guide to How You Can Support Marginalized Communities How We Can Be an Ally in the Fight for Racial Justice Who Gets to Be Afraid in America? Books Uprooting Racism: How White People Can Work for Racial Justice by Paul Kivel White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo Race Talk and the Conspiracy of Silence: Understanding and Facilitating…by Derald Wing Sue Understanding White Privilege: Creating Pathways to Authentic….by Frances Kendall Books for Children (with Common Sense Media reviews) Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You, by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X The Undefeated by Kwame Alexander and illustrated by Kadir Nelson New Kid by Jerry Craft How It Went Down by Kekla Magoon Ted Talks Racism has a Cost for Everyone by Heather C. McGhee How We Can Make Racism a Solvable Problem by Phillip Atiba Goff You Have the Rite by Marc Bamuthi Joseph How to Deconstruct Racism, One Headline at a Time by Baratunde Thurston Movies 13th American Son When They See Us The Hate You Give I Am Not Your Negro (James Baldwin documentary) 12 Angry Men Podcasts Code Switch Intersectionality Matters! Momentum: A Race Forward Podcast Diversity: Beyond the Checkbox Follow Equal Justice Initiative (EJI): Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Colorlines: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook United We Dream: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Showing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ): Twitter | Instagram | Facebook The Diversity Movement is also actively exploring ways to participate in actions for systemic change in our society. As such, we are making our eLearning module on Unconscious Bias, part of Diversity: Beyond the Checkbox online course (module valued at $250) available for $19 through June 30, 2020. 100% of the proceeds will go to North Carolina organizations that support, educate and empower underserved and marginalized communities in our fight for equality.  The Diversity Movement will also host a webinar entitled, Allyship and Processing Being Black in America, on Friday, June 5, 2020 at 12:00-1:00pm EDT, with special guests: Donald Thompson, Danya Perry and Dr. Deborah Stroman that will explore topics around race and allyship and answer your questions live. We will also make a recorded version of this webinar available for those unable to attend. You can register here to attend. Additionally, if your organization needs assistance in facilitating conversations with your staff, employee resource groups, or making a company-wide statement against racism, we want to help. Contact us at info@thediversitymovement.com today. Related insightsSouthern, Gay, and Grown: A Look Into My Ties to D&I by Kyle Alexander Stop Talking About Diversity Only During Black History Month by Jackie Ferguson 2019-2020 Toronto Raptors: Diversity and Inclusion for Sports Excellence  by Kurt Merriweather

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  • Sharon Delaney McCloud

This new reality we're all living has disrupted our lives as we know it. People's health at risk, schools closed, millions of people working remotely, businesses closing and so many other actions forcing us to stop our normal routines. As humans, we're wired for self-protection and isolating our families at home is now the new norm. But it can be really challenging to go against the grain of our society's typical busy, chaotic schedules.

For me, that's the truth. I don't sit still well. Ever. I've learned over the years that life likes to stretch our capacity. You've certainly heard the only constant we can count on is change. This week, one of my professional speaker colleagues, Dave Rendall, sent out a challenge to all of us who normally speak from stages doing keynotes and TED Talks to instead do a BEDTalk, the #BEDTalkChallenge. Take a look at my BEDTalk below and then let's share how you will #EmbraceThePause and approach our current situations differently.

Share how you'll #EmbraceThePause. Below are some photos of what we're doing at my house. Tag me on Insta @sharondelaneymccloud. I'd love to see your pics.

  • Sharon Delaney McCloud

While I didn't workout on this podcast in the traditional sense, Linda Mitchell and I certainly worked our hearts and minds. Linda is a wonderful motivator, entrepreneur and inspiration to every women she meets.

As you can see in her photo, Linda is a fitness professional, graduate of the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, award-winning fitness competitor, author, and motivator with a passion for helping women discover the power of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T. (Strong Women Empowering Achieving Together). But the headline here is Linda is 55 years old!! What?? Obviously, age is no excuse for not taking care of your body.

Linda is the real deal. She holds over a dozen fitness- and nutrition-related certifications and has many decades of experience working in the fitness industry. In total, Linda has helped her clients lose thousands of pounds of unwanted weight, but more importantly, she has also helped those clients feel more confident in their own skin and feel happier with who they are.

That's where I come in. Not the fitness part but about building resilience in the face of adversity and using grit and gratitude to face life's many challenges. Linda invited me to be a guest on her popular podcast. Check out the episode below and be prepared for some deep, vulnerable conversation.

Are you finding it hard to stay strong?  Have you been losing hope?  In this episode, we discuss how grace, god, and grit can get you through almost anything in your life. Sharon has struggled through child loss, cancer and other adversities in her life, and she continues to keep moving forward and making the world better.

In this episode I talk with Sharon Delaney McCloud, Emmy Award-winning journalist, cancer survivor, and bereaved mother, joins us to discuss her personal experiences using grit and gratitude to face any of the adversity in her life. We discuss the journey she went through with her daughter, finding your own resilience, balancing your professional with your personal life. This conversation goes deep and we don’t hold back, so be prepared for some tears, but this is a very inspiring conversation to help you find your own grit.

Read more at https://sisterhodofsweat.libsyn.com/#uDHpJqF6ets4qwBJ.

Questions Linda asked:

- Can you give people a background on who you are?

- How did you pick yourself up and keep going?

- What are your top tips for speaking to bereaved parents?

- Linda gives words of advice to get into a workout routine.

- Can you give us 10 tips for resilience?

- Where can listeners get the download, and connect with you?

Topics Discussed:

- Experiencing Ireland

- Eating Meat Free

- Raising a child while working in journalism

- Dealing with child illness and child loss.

- Childhood Leukemia.

- Overcoming negative circumstances.

- Doing a TED Talk on talking to bereaved parents.

- Facing loss in your life.

- Tips for resilience.

- Read more at https://sisterhodofsweat.libsyn.com/#uDHpJqF6ets4qwBJ.

Quotes from the show:

“I take my grief and throw myself into all things with tenacity.” @SharonDMcCloud @SisterhoodSweat

“I took that courage Macy taught me, and started my own company.” @SharonDMcCloud @SisterhoodSweat

“Face everything with bravery.” @SharonDMcCloud @SisterhoodSweat

“We can’t just lay down and not face reality. We have a son who needs his parents back.” @SharonDMcCloud @SisterhoodSweat

“There is no word for a parent who loses a child.” @SharonDMcCloud @SisterhoodSweat

How you can stay in touch with Sharon Delaney McCloud:



Sharon’s book: https://amzn.to/2KULTKQ Read more at https://sisterhodofsweat.libsyn.com/#uDHpJqF6ets4qwBJ.99